This post is piggybacking off of S23’s post here. I pretty much reposted my comment from her site and added a couple of things in.
People are always saying that if you consistently attract ‘certain’ types then you have to look at why you’re attracting them. I can understand that to an extent, but at the same time, when a man approaches you cold, he doesn’t know anything about you other than how you look. So unless you dress and/or carry yourself like a hoodrat or whore, how in the hell can it reflect negatively on you if random crazies find you attractive and decide to approach?
What I look at when a man approaches is how he talks to me (none of that "hey baby" crap), how he looks (if he has braids or sagging pants he can forget it), and in applicable cases the content of his convo (if he tells me his name is Jermaine but I should call him "J-Dubb" then there’s no way we could be compatible).
What’s up with all these false advertisers out here? They approach you looking good, very respectful and interesting. Then you get them on the phone and they say the craziest shit ever.
Exhibit A:
Me: So do you live alone?
Him: No.
Me: … (waiting for him to elaborate lol)
Me: So who do you live with?
Him: A girl.
Me: A girl??? You have a damn girlfriend?
Him: Something like that.
Me: Well it was nice meeting you then.
Him: *chuckles* But…
Me: *click*
If you’re gonna say crazy shit, I need for you to have a wonky eye, dress like a bum, and maybe a missing tooth or three. It would make things SO much easier. Seriously.
