One day last week as I was walking into the subway station on my way to work, I heard someone beeping their horn but didn’t pay attention to it. I figure that if I’m not in my car, walking in or near the street, or it isn’t someone I know, nobody should be beeping at me. Period. It turns out that the horn beeper was my friend’s Ki’s brother-in-law who had to yell "heeeey K!" to get my attention. I laughed, waved, and got my arse to work as I was running late anyway.
Fast forward to yesterday and Ki invited me to the bbq of this same brother-in-law & her sister. He said, "you acted like you ain’t know me the other day, K! I bet that if a guy wants to talk to you he’d better get OUT the car b/c you won’t even look his way if he beeps at you (laughs)." I told him heck no I don’t respond to the honking of the horn b/c you honk at a prostitute (or women dressed like prostitutes — neither of which applies to me) and any guy doing that mess isn’t going to be my type. Trust me. The guy that Ki is currently dating chimed in and said I could be missing out on a good thing. The way I see it is this. If you get up in the morning to take the 7:30 bus, get to the bus stop at 7:25 and board your bus when it comes and you’re on your merry way. You’re not going to get on the 7:30 bus and think about what happened to the 7:00 and 7:15 buses because they were not for you. What’s for me is for me and a guy who beeps his horn at random women when he’s driving ain’t for me. There’s nothing to lament.
A lot of guys use their car horns as mack tools but it’s stupid. Even if he parks and gets out of the car, I still don’t like it. If I’m walking down the street, you have no way of knowing whether or not I’d even be receptive of your advances. That’s something you can only get through face-to-face interaction. Plus, what kind of idiot does one have to be to think that driving beside a walking woman, or even getting out of your car and randomly approaching her is a good idea? What would make a guy assume that this woman is not threatened by a STRANGER doing that dumb shit? If you see an attractive woman walking down the street, if you can’t be smoother than honking your horn then just make a mental note that she is attractive and KEEP IT MOVING.
I wrote about something similar last week. Apparently, we didn’t get the memo that we should be thankful that any man is giving us attention
Comment by Hostess — June 25, 2007 @ 7:49 pm
ooo the old honking of the horn. I hate it too. Just like I hate “AYE SHAWTY”
being screamed at me from accross the parking lot.
Comment by Peach — June 27, 2007 @ 11:15 am
Good post, sis! (high fives) I agree with you. Up here these fools try to chop you in a mall, saying “Psssst.” They must think I’m 14…and even when I *WAS* 14 I didn’t bother responding. Booo!
Comment by ms. complexity — June 28, 2007 @ 9:50 am
i never really could get down with perfect strangers tryina holla. if given a choice (and isn’t it always a choice?) it’s ALL about casual acquaintances moving up the ladder. that way at least you feel like you have some clue of each other’s personalities/motives, etc…
ay shawty has and will always be ignored by me.
Comment by glory — June 28, 2007 @ 12:38 pm
Amen! And I don’t play with a guy who is picking me up for a date and honks. Get out the car and come pick me up at my door.
There are pots for every lid, and there are women out there that have no problem talking to a guy who honks. To each her own, I am just not doing that.
Comment by shai — June 28, 2007 @ 1:32 pm
I think honking at someone you don’t know to get their attention so you can “mack” is rude. I also think it also show what level of class the honker has. Just my opinion.
Comment by Honest — June 28, 2007 @ 10:18 pm
Imagine how awkward it is to be a secret agent who prefers to get out of the car but has to tail a suspect or informant in order to get intelligence.
Comment by The OE — June 30, 2007 @ 2:00 am
yea. horns are for prostitutes. i like that. lol.
Comment by dayrell — July 2, 2007 @ 1:36 pm
this guy sounds like a chicken chasing bumpkin in the big city, u shudent get mad when a man wants to talk to u, even if he’s in his car, they just wanna flatter u, and compliment u
There is nothing flattering or complimentary about honking your horn at a woman. It is rude plain and simple. Like Hostess said, some women aren’t so pressed that ANY half-assed attempt at “hollering” is acceptable.
Comment by afro jamaicano — July 5, 2007 @ 11:03 pm
Yeah, I don’t play that honking stuff either! It’s so empowering to know that the “honker” is
probably mad as hell that you don’t respond, but maybe they’ll know better next time.
Comment by Sugar — July 5, 2007 @ 11:18 pm
Now that’s funny, but you make a good point! It is rude and disrespectful. I generally don’t turn for horn honking either. Like you said… not interested!
Comment by Young Miss — July 10, 2007 @ 4:05 pm
Not only is it rude, but it is a strange thing to do. What am I suppose to shout my number out at you? I do not think so.
Comment by Miz JJ — July 12, 2007 @ 1:25 pm
Tap! Tap!! When are YOU going to update?
Comment by Hostess — July 17, 2007 @ 12:58 pm
I notice that there are alot of ladies who have comment on this issue, which is why you all agree, for the most part. But things are a little bit different from a man’s perspective because of the way that society has set it up for the man to pursue the woman. It is easy to say “well, just chalk it up as a mental note that she is attractive and move on”…but when would men actually meet anyone if that is all they did. If they could never approach women they don’t know, what options do we have? I agree that the horn thing is not the way to go, but to say that we should not try to speak to strangers cuts out the clubs, the lounges, parties, baby showers, bar mitzvahs, book clubs, etc…LOL. What do you suggest that a man could do, that is respectful, to approach you if he does not know you?
I didn’t mean to imply that men should not approach a woman that he finds attractive. I’m speaking specifically to the car situation. I’m all for striking up convo in the grocery store, club, or whereever, as long as you’re smooth with it. If you’re just randomly honking your horn or yelling out “excuse me miss” to women that pass by then that’s when it becomes tacky. Other than that, play on playa.
Comment by Maverick — July 18, 2007 @ 5:02 pm
And excuse my grammatical mistakes in the previous comment…I was rushing…
Comment by Maverick — July 18, 2007 @ 5:03 pm