Comments on: Four Myths that Women Believe About Men (Repost) http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/ Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:14:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: glory http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-338 Wed, 20 Jun 2007 11:16:30 +0100 http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-338 i think that if there's any teaching going on, it goes both ways. i have learned how to treat a man better and how to help a man understand (and therefore treat) me better - i learned this stuff through experience with men, not by happenstance. i certainly haven't attempted to "train" anybody, and i don't want to HAVE to. things do change, but rockiness gets worse, not better. i wouldn't buy a house with cracks in the foundation. um actually, sometimes, when you're inexperienced and idealistic and HONGRY, you really don't see stuff you ought to see, and then you are blindsided. but i think most people can see stuff coming if they'd just acknowledge it for what it really is. one exception --&gt; LIES. some lies are opaque. and instead of saying a man should accept you for who you are, i think it's better to think that if you and he aren't compatible, you're just not and you need to be out, but that's no reason to blame him for seeing things from his point of view. if you're bent on being in a relationship, then you just need a different man. <strong>I love these comments!</strong> i think that if there’s any teaching going on, it goes both ways. i have learned how to treat a man better and how to help a man understand (and therefore treat) me better - i learned this stuff through experience with men, not by happenstance. i certainly haven’t attempted to “train” anybody, and i don’t want to HAVE to.

things do change, but rockiness gets worse, not better. i wouldn’t buy a house with cracks in the foundation.

um actually, sometimes, when you’re inexperienced and idealistic and HONGRY, you really don’t see stuff you ought to see, and then you are blindsided. but i think most people can see stuff coming if they’d just acknowledge it for what it really is. one exception –> LIES. some lies are opaque.

and instead of saying a man should accept you for who you are, i think it’s better to think that if you and he aren’t compatible, you’re just not and you need to be out, but that’s no reason to blame him for seeing things from his point of view. if you’re bent on being in a relationship, then you just need a different man.

I love these comments!

]]> by: Sugar http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-337 Tue, 19 Jun 2007 13:32:58 +0100 http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-337 Great post! To this though: "But we have common sense and we should use it," I would just like to repeat what one passerby to my own blog had to say when I uttered the same thing..."Good common sense isn't really all that common." I believe that now. How many women do we probably all know who are smart as hell, but dumb as a bag of hammers when it comes to using good common sense? I know lots, and we all get kicked in the pants from time to time and common sense goes completely out the window. "Dick'll make you shoot somebody in the face." Alexyss K. Tylor lol <strong>LOL @ your Alexyss quote. If people can look past the fact that she's obviously coo coo for Cocopuffs, they'd find that some of the shyt she says makes sense...LOL</strong> Great post! To this though: “But we have common sense and we should use it,” I would just like to repeat what one
passerby to my own blog had to say when I uttered the same thing…”Good common sense isn’t really all that common.”
I believe that now. How many women do we probably all know who are smart as hell, but dumb as a bag of hammers when it
comes to using good common sense? I know lots, and we all get kicked in the pants from time to time and common sense
goes completely out the window. “Dick’ll make you shoot somebody in the face.” Alexyss K. Tylor lol

LOL @ your Alexyss quote. If people can look past the fact that she’s obviously coo coo for Cocopuffs, they’d find that some of the shyt she says makes sense…LOL

]]> by: aly cat http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-336 Mon, 18 Jun 2007 19:49:23 +0100 http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-336 ohhh dayum this needs to be sung from rooftops cuz I believe it's soo true, even that myths that the first commentor added in. Okay when you gonna publish your version of "He's not that into you" for EVERYBODY? LOL <strong>LOL</strong> ohhh dayum this needs to be sung from rooftops cuz I believe it’s soo true, even that myths that the first commentor added in. Okay when you gonna publish your version of “He’s not that into you” for EVERYBODY? LOL

LOL

]]> by: c2a http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-335 Sat, 16 Jun 2007 23:42:13 +0100 http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-335 We're watching Hitched. My FIL just said a man isnt' supposed to be the first to say "I love you." I immediately thought of this post. If both men and women get these rules, its a wonder we ever progress in relationships. <strong>I find myself wondering the same thing often, LOL</strong> We’re watching Hitched. My FIL just said a man isnt’ supposed to be the first to say “I love you.” I immediately thought of this post. If both men and women get these rules, its a wonder we ever progress in relationships.

I find myself wondering the same thing often, LOL

]]> by: c2a http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-334 Sat, 16 Jun 2007 18:24:48 +0100 http://unwrapped.blogsome.com/2007/06/16/four-myths-that-women-believe-about-men-repost/#comment-334 My thoughts- Myth 1. I refer to Corinthians description of love. Love isn't proud and it rejoices in truth. If you can't tell a person that you love them before they tell you, then love might not exist. I've had friends who have dated their guy a year or more tell me their guy loves them, although he has never said it. I think that is wishful thinking. If people are happy to be with a mate that doens't love them that is fine, the delusion is the problem. Myth 2- Rocky beginnings lead to rocky middles and rocky ends. Delusion yet again. Myth 3- I think we ignore stuff and let stuff slide. Dating as we do today is set up that way. Then there is also the pressure on women to maintain relationships, so once she finds out he isn't worth keeping, some women will keep him to avoid the stigma of not "having a man" and not being able to keep a man. Myth 4- I think there is someone for everyone. I know lots of men who love crazy, they like a woman who throws stuff and talks to them crazy, and keeps an attitude. I seriously know men who just lick the boots of these women. <strong>LOL @ your myth 4. That's true. When I wrote that I had a friend in mind who had been with her bf on and off for over 5 years. She wanted to move toward marriage but he was hesitant to move forward and his boundaries were very clear. I felt bad for her and told her she was wasting her life away with him. Then one day I witnessed them get into an argument over something very petty and when all was said and done, he was all bloody and his car was jacked up. At that point I TOTALLY understood why he didn't want to move forward and wondered why HE hadn't left HER yet. I blogged about it before I moved to Blogsome, I think I'll repost that entry this week.</strong> My thoughts- Myth 1. I refer to Corinthians description of love. Love isn’t proud and it rejoices in truth. If you can’t tell a person that you love them before they tell you, then love might not exist.

I’ve had friends who have dated their guy a year or more tell me their guy loves them, although he has never said it. I think that is wishful thinking. If people are happy to be with a mate that doens’t love them that is fine, the delusion is the problem.

Myth 2- Rocky beginnings lead to rocky middles and rocky ends. Delusion yet again.

Myth 3- I think we ignore stuff and let stuff slide. Dating as we do today is set up that way. Then there is also the pressure on women to maintain relationships, so once she finds out he isn’t worth keeping, some women will keep him to avoid the stigma of not “having a man” and not being able to keep a man.

Myth 4- I think there is someone for everyone. I know lots of men who love crazy, they like a woman who throws stuff and talks to them crazy, and keeps an attitude. I seriously know men who just lick the boots of these women.

LOL @ your myth 4. That’s true. When I wrote that I had a friend in mind who had been with her bf on and off for over 5 years. She wanted to move toward marriage but he was hesitant to move forward and his boundaries were very clear. I felt bad for her and told her she was wasting her life away with him. Then one day I witnessed them get into an argument over something very petty and when all was said and done, he was all bloody and his car was jacked up. At that point I TOTALLY understood why he didn’t want to move forward and wondered why HE hadn’t left HER yet. I blogged about it before I moved to Blogsome, I think I’ll repost that entry this week.

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