k.unwrapped

I’ve decided against waiting until Jan 1 to make some changes. Yeah yeah December is almost over but I’ve been on this kick for a couple of weeks now.

- Be more outspoken/assertive/proactive
The same coworker advised me to change my name on my resume (btw I decided to go with a "T. Sandra Taylor" type of name…I’ll keep yall posted!), let’s call her Debbie, told me that I’m known as being "too quiet." No shock there, been hearing that since I was five. I’m not sure how one goes about changing such a personality trait but it’s time to give it a sincere try. It was one of those "who’s labeled" conversations. Everybody has some label attached to them but I say that nobody’s perfect. We all fall short somehow. People expect way too much of other people at times.

- Stop skipping the strength training part of my workout…I miss having muscles
- Volunteer more often (just signed up for a mentor program in Southwest Philly Philly…where I am from)
- Enroll in the company’s 401(k) program…I was going to wait until I either made more money or turned 25 (whichever came first) but I signed up yesterday to contribute a small amount…my budget was already tight but I’m sure I’ll find a way to make it work woo hoo

Last night some of the coworkers went to a bar to celebrate a soon-to-be ex-coworker (Meek) getting a new (and much better!) job. Someone invited two of his minister friends which was VERY interesting. One who I’ll call Aaron, is Honduran, and the other (Mark) is White. Why did they spend the entire evening buying everybody drinks and otherwise being the life of the party? They were really trying to bar hop and hang out! WE had to tell THEM that we were tired and ready to go. I feel at ease because Aaron assured me that I’ll be going to heaven because he and God are tight like that, and since he PERSONALLY sent up a prayer, I’m good. It’s great to be well-connected.

Around 11:30p there are about five of us left: the ministers, Meek, and two Black guys (O and J) that we work with (J happens to be Meeks ex/baby daddy…she got him hired last year AFTER they broke up). We were about to go our separate ways and the ministers were concerned with how Meek and I were getting home. Meek and I both park at train stations and take the subway to work. It didn’t make sense to go get our cars then come back downtown to drive around for 20mins looking for parking. O happened to drive to work that day so his car was nearby. J doesn’t have a car and was planning to ride with O, and they knew the situation with our cars. Meek and I planned to take a cab to our cars but it would’ve been nice if O would’ve offered us a ride b/c he KNEW that where we parked was close to where he lives. And J had already secured his ride so he didn’t give a damn. The ministers offered us a ride…those guys were cool, really…but who’s to say that they were really ministers? I don’t know them dudes lol.

As we’re standing outside, O jumps in his car and drives away without even saying good-bye. That was just the craziest thing to me. When I hang out with friends/associates, we always discuss how everybody is getting home, ESPECIALLY when there’s alcohol involved. As I’m calling for our cab, J calls O back and asks him to drive us to our destinations…all of which are within a 3 mile radius of O’s apt and he knows this! J can literally walk home from O’s place. So O comes right back and picks us up but acts like he was asked to give up a limb. I would expect that from coworkers who are barely acquainted…but damn, I thought we were COOL.