In order to get past security in the lobby of the building I work in, you have to either swipe a security badge or get an "authorized" sticker from one of the security desks. Good ole post-9/11 security measures. Well, I forgot my security badge today so I just did what I always do when I leave it home…walk right past security and get on the elevator without any of them even noticing. Damn, I feel so safe here.
Remember the guy I met at Wawa last week? Although the Myspace thing was a bit odd he was my physical ideal: tall (6′3) with an athletic build, Pharell’s complexion, low-cut Caesar, royal blue button-down shirt, jeans that don’t sag but aren’t too tight either, and a sort of dressy sneaker.
Well, he kept bugging me for my Myspace url so I gave it to him. The next time I logged on I had a friend request waiting for me…I just accepted it but didn’t look at his page.
On Thursday he told me that he wanted to see me, so I asked what he had in mind. He sat there dumbfounded for a while. I told him that I don’t invite strangers to my home so that’s out of the question. He finally asks what I like to do. I suggested a couple of bar/grille type places near Univ of Penn b/c it’s always fun down there, plus the prices are usually right due to the heavy student population in the area. He wasn’t feeling that but didn’t have any suggestions of his own!
We ended up going to this bar inside the Westin hotel downtown that one of his friends suggested. We both had 2 drinks while we sat and talked for a couple of hours. It turns out that he attended my Alma Mater on a basketball scholarship at one point before transferring to another school in PA. I found that he has a 5 yr old daughter…and that he and the mother broke up 3 WEEKS AGO. Been there, done that, have the t-shirt! I immediately place him in the just-a-friend box. He tells me that he’s looking for something serious and all kinds of red flags go up. WHO in the hell is looking for something serious immediately after ending a 6 yr (or more) relationship? Not a man that’s for sure!
As he’s driving me home he’s dropping "I want to come in" type hints. I’m thinking, he just wants to f&ck. Period. Not happenin’ buddy.
On Saturday afternoon I was cruising my friend’s list out of boredom and clicked on his page. His profile says "in a relationship" and his girlfriend is the first person in his "top 8." He had me in the number 2 slot LOL. I clicked on her profile and there was a picture of them together, with a comment from him dated 11/28/06 "that’s a good man in the picture…don’t let him go!" Either he’s bold as hell, or just plain stupid. At first I was just going to start ignoring his calls because I knew that any excuse he could come up with would be dumb. However, since I’m always down for some self-torture, I answered the phone when he called.
I asked him why he was pretending to be single and he said, “You’re trippin.’ I just left my profile as-is because I’m not trying to meet anybody on Myspace.” I hung up.
What a disappointment.
Damn. I hate myspace.
Comment by Serenity23 — December 4, 2006 @ 11:24 am
“You’re trippin.’ I just left my profile as-is because I’m not trying to meet anybody on Myspace.”
GIRL! when I tell you I have been through THE SAME perdicament. I was like “um…so y’all are still “in a relationship” on your profiles and havent changed your top8 or nothin?” and he said the same mess… I just havent changed it yet. WHATEVER. I told u myspace dude would be no good LMAO hate to say it like that though.
LOL they read from the same handbook. He changed his top 8 to add me to it but couldn’t be bothered to change his profile…not to mention the comment he left on her page. Wait…I feel REALLY silly having a discussion about “Top 8″ LMAO
Comment by Peach — December 4, 2006 @ 1:01 pm
man dont i know it…but at the same time…belive it or not, someone’s profile will really reflect what type of person they are. I mean it IS something they themselves control. like if I meet a guy and his myspace top 8 is all family, and he has a total of 20 friends…to ME that is a better sign then him taking the time to put you in the top 8 and not change his status. As juvinile as it sounds to talk about it, the reality is..IT MAKES SENSE.
well i guess he was trying to apease everyone. i guess he thought that adding me to his top 8 would make me feel special and he could just tell me some bullshit about not changing his status. changing his status and making his girlfriend mad wouldn’t be a good look lol. he just sent me a text message that will be ignored just like the rest of his calls. if someone hung up on me i damn sure wouldn’t be calling/texting them anymore. what a dumbass.
Comment by Peach — December 4, 2006 @ 3:31 pm
actually it works different for shady men…they like being hung up on, makes you more of a chase…he is now trying to use all the game he has in the world to make you change your mind and still date him…men are retarded that way
lol you’re right. he left another vm to inform me that he won’t be calling me anymore. then he sent me a message on myspace talking about “i guess you’re mad at me.” i simply wrote “you have a girlfriend, you’re playing games, and i want no parts of it. let it go.” then he writes back “i told you my situation, i think you just want to walk away for other reasons but just using this as an excuse.”
this is why i was just going to walk away cold turkey b/c it just goes on and on and on. there’s no point in arguing when there’s no resolution. he gets no more responses from me. i’m just frustrated that i keep meeting losers.
Comment by Peach — December 4, 2006 @ 7:51 pm
myspace is known to cause a lot of drama. i only have a profile to spy on others. =P you were right to hang up on him. i think he is both bold and stupid.
either that or he thought i was stupid lol
Comment by X-GF — December 5, 2006 @ 12:36 am
Well, at least you went somewhere on your date that wasn’t that expensive. Had you gone to an expensive spot and ordered from the “f#@king” side of the menu, he would have had to stalk you like a brotha that just bought you a drink in the club………protecting his “investment”. LOL
I just KNEW that you were going to say that you ended it when dude didn’t have any idea where he wanted to take you on your date. Piece of advice- When a “man” (ahem) asks to take you out on a date, if he is truly genuine, will have a plan and a backup plan. The funny thing about real men is that if they are sincerely looking for something serious WITH YOU, they have already “fantasized” about the “perfect” first date and how to sweep you off your feet. (Then again, that just might only pertain to the “real men” that I associate myself with.)
It’s funny that you mention the plan thing. I had that in mind as well. I also took issue with the fact that our first “date” was at a bar. I didn’t even think of it as a date…more like ‘hanging out.’ For me it’s more about intent than making a man spend big $$$…we’re part of the Young & Broke crowd lol so I keep that in mind. In other words, you’re right lol.
Comment by poetic.lust — December 5, 2006 @ 7:28 am
wow…he is a mess
Comment by V — December 5, 2006 @ 10:31 am
” took issue with the fact that our first “date” was at a bar.”
I was thinking the same exact thing when i read that. first he didnt know where to take you, you said “i dont let strangers in my home” (that should have clued him in that you werent a hoe) then he comes up with a bar. Kinda like thinkin (maybe if i pump her full of alcohol i can get her to need me to take her inside her house) ALL MEN HAVE PLANS. Even the shitty ones LOL. And you’re absolutely right. Like I said he will say anything, and never admit that he is wrong. you gotta stop giving him any attention. AND TRUST. I keep meeting shitty ones too!! I know it sucks. but sometimes it feels better to know you werent dumb enough to settle for someone who wasnt worth it.
Comment by Peach — December 5, 2006 @ 11:49 am
This is hilarious. Reminds me of something I wrote a while back and someone, I think Bruthacode, commented about men trying to establish a fake sense of familiarity by getting into your home early on. You did right girl!
Comment by Hostess — December 5, 2006 @ 3:18 pm
i think he was trying to pull the whole “i don’t have any ideas for a date, how ’bout we just hang out at your place” routine, except, he wanted YOU to suggest ‘well, we could just hang out at my place’…you know, so it wouldn’t seem like he was eager to get in the door. I’ve always felt that if a dude was too lazy to want to go out and do something in public, then he’d always be that way…always wanting to lay up in your crib. In his case, he would obviously be looking sex since you’d be more comfortable in your own place. Either way, he had you ALL messed up.
And um…don’t make me have to break out about 6 posts in one day on ya; they might not be “quality” posts, but they’d still count!
Comment by Carmen — December 5, 2006 @ 3:34 pm
Why are folks sooo crazy?!?!
Comment by Honest — December 5, 2006 @ 10:42 pm
CLASSIC! This had me rolling Kie.
“Cole. You stupid.” LMAO
Comment by dayrell — December 7, 2006 @ 10:03 pm
Thank goodness you recognized the red flags telling you that this man was nothing but drama.
Don’t be too disappointed; you not the one that has a child with him ( she should be disappointed).
Comment by SmartBlkWoman — December 12, 2006 @ 5:29 pm