k.unwrapped

In response the my Dreams post, Jarrod Halsey wrote:

Two words. Stay single. Its like Katt Williams said. “Its not that all men ain’t sh*t. Its that all the men you attract ain’t sh*t. Maybe you need to step back, be single, and reassess your sh*t. Figure out what it is about you that keeps attracting ain’t sh*t niggas.”

I fail to see how this comment relates to that post AT ALL (I think he skimmed the entry then hit "post comment" too quickly…or he just wanted to use that Katt Williams quote, no matter how out of place it was lol). But I stil had to respond to such a bold statement. I think the ideas that one should look inside themselves for 1) self improvement and 2) assess their role in each failed relationship are wonderful. However, the assertion that a woman can somehow control who is attracted to her is cloaked in bitterness. Men who say this are the very same ones who, when asked why they’re single respond with "nice guys finish last" or "women don’t want nice guys." How is it that women need to look inside themselves to see why they attract "ain’t shit niggas" yet when men can’t find a good woman it’s women’s fault too? Why doesn’t this man stop and say, "there must be something inside me that attracts women who aren’t into nice guys?" Furthermore, what makes YOU so damn nice?

If anything, it doesn’t matter who you attract. Women get approached by all types of men on the subway, at the gym, church, the club, etc. What matters is who a woman is attracted to, and who she’d invest time in. If Jarrod would have said something to to the effect of, you need to figure out what it is about "ain’t shit niggas" that attracts YOU, it would’ve held merit. Something else to consider, what is it about women who aren’t into nice guys that attracts ME?