A few years ago my friend Lynn met this guy at a new church that she joined. It was a student-oriented church that was born on her college campus - he was a preacher there and a student at her school. They were friends for a short while, and then one day he sat her down and told her that he believed God sent her to be his wife. Lynn was already in a relationship (w/ a fresh-out-of-jail thief smh) and she felt weird about the way he approached her. I suggested that she go for it…some women just aren’t good at choosing men…AT ALL. At the time, she was the type who would be in a relationship with any abusive loser just to be in a relationship. If you’re going to go about relationships that way, why not choose a young preacher with a lot going for him? She declined his offer out of allegiance to Thief Dude (whom she barely knew).
Shortly thereafter, she graduated and was pregnant by Thief Dude while Preacher Dude married some other chick.
Meanwhile, the church is growing and drawing lots of young (under 25) members. Lynn’s boyfriend gets arrested and sentenced to a LONG prison term for…you guessed it…robbery. Preacher Dude and his wife have a child of their own, and occasionally he mentions that his wife doesn’t have to work because he provides for all of her needs. Lynn is green with envy and sick with regret. If only she had made a smarter choice and chosen Preacher Dude…she certainly wouldn’t be a single mother struggling to make ends meet now.
Fast forward to September 2006. The church fell apart because the majority of the members left because as it turns out, Preacher Dude was laying the pipe all up and through the sanctuary. One of the women he’s rumored to have been getting down with recently had an abortion that he supposedly funded. It’s just a whole bunch of mess.
Since Thief Dude’s trip “Up State,” Lynn’s evolved from that girl who would settle for any man that comes her way. She made the right choice after all. Regret is not your friend. You just never know what could be going on in someone’s household despite how pretty things may look to outsiders. Once you make a decision you just have to accept it and move forward…you made that decision for a reason.
This was an interesting post. Just for the sake of playing devil’s advocate here, what if Lynn had made the other decision and the preacher would have been faithful and upstanding. Maybe there’s so many problems b/c he isn’t with his right mate. Just throwing that out. I’m sure it’s not the case b/c folks are gonna do what they are gonna do regardless. I just hate he made those choices and have probably shook the faith of some folk, his wife included.
Comment by Serenity23 — October 2, 2006 @ 2:48 pm
That’s why I don’t trust preachers. I never put trust in anpther person till I know them personally.
Comment by Jules — October 3, 2006 @ 12:01 pm
I totally agree with you about forgetting about the past and regret, and moving forward.
Comment by Ali — October 4, 2006 @ 7:34 pm